Successful Fostering of Children and Young Children

Fostering is about promoting the best outcomes for children and young people, through the dedication and hard work of foster carers.

Contributor: Sorley McDale

Presumably thousands of fostering households around the UK held New Year parties. When you think about New Year parties you think about lots of people, noise, revelry, blaring music, buffet meals and overly enthusiastic felicitations to each other and maybe people who we would either chose to ignore at any other time, or who we don’t like. Sound familiar? Is that a common New Year theme?

Dare we suggest that perhaps some young people stayed up for the ringing in of the New Year bells? Do children and young people really grasp the concept of New Year? Do they share many adults’ optimism for the New Year and set ambition and aspiration in line with adult hopefulness? Can we fathom what goes on in children’s and young people’s minds when the bells ring out, fire works go off and the shouts of “Happy New Year” are shouted roundly? Are they buying into the experience and vision, or do most children and young people simply react to the general party occasion?

In the same vein, do adults actually celebrate New Year as an occasion to inspire and set hopes and aspirations, or do we actually just celebrate a party? It raises an interesting cultural question about who we are, and how we relate to each other and our lives… this question is brought more sharply into focus when we consider New year in the context of looked-after children’s circumstances. How has New year been experienced in the context of the child’s life previously? What impact does being separated from your family and loved ones at Christmas have, when Christmas and New Year have such an association with family bonds and family closeness? What if, in the case of some children, that they are actually happier and feel more settled in their substitute family, does New year pass without emotional pain and suffering, or can the intensity of New Year still hurt even though the family of origin is not the place the child wants to be living with?

All of these questions should be borne in mind when substitute carers help and support children and young people in care celebrate and experience Christmas and New Year. It is easy to assume that children are positively affected by adults’ positivity, and that because the foster family marks and celebrates such a universal festival as New Year, that this rubs off on the child.

Consider this conversation will a young man, Daniel,14, who was taken into care for the first time just before Christmas in 2012.

“My family were falling apart. My Dad had left us, and my mum just didn’t know what to do. It wasn’t like it hadn’t happened before, it had happened loads before. But this time my dad had left Mum and actually gone to love with a different woman. It’s the only time I have ever seen my Mum cry, and I mean properly cry… she just threw herself in the corner and didn’t move. I didn’t know what to do. My big sister has learning difficulties, and I didn’t know who needed me first. And all I could hear was my little brother screaming in the background. When I phoned my gran, she was shouting and swearing on the phone about my Dad – she never really liked him, and it was almost like she was enjoying it. So the next morning, after I went to school I just went and spoke to my form tutor and told him everything. I didn’t go home that day – a social worker came and collected me from school and I came to Anita’s house.

My sister went to another place – a home for people with learning difficulties, and my younger brother went to live with my gran. She couldn’t handle both of us. It was nice having my own bedroom – I kind of liked it. Anita was nice, and she had two sons younger than me. I was left alone a lot of the time. Her two sons started getting on my nerves. They were all excited about Christmas, talking about Santa Claus, and going on and on about presents. I knew I wasn’t at home, and I was worried about my sister and my brother. My mum asked me to sort their presents, and that’s all I could think about. They were under my bed, and I was looking after them.

Anita kept asking me what I wanted for Christmas, and what I wanted to do. What I wanted was to make sure they were OK and had got their presents. My phone was phoning every couple of days, but she wasn’t feeling so good. I think she was drinking again. Our social worker was putting her under pressure to get help, and that’s what she was talking about.

Finishing school a couple of days before Christmas I was not looking forward to that. My mate from school was going on holiday to Egypt. I was jealous. I wanted to go with him, I was asking his Mum and Dad – I told them about me being in care and what happened at home. They felt so sorry for me, and his mum was nearly crying. I don’t think my mate was impressed with me asking to go on holiday.

I hated Christmas. I can’t even talk about it. I don’t want to think about it. But I got it over with. I thought I was going to see a lot of my sister and my brother. But my gran decided she was taking my brother to stay with family. And because Anita had Josh and Connor, she couldn’t take me to see my mum.

By New Year I just felt so angry. Some of Anita’s family came round for a New Year party. They were all happy and excited. Josh and Connor had made all the party decorations, and they had even made me an invitation to the party, all nice and sweet. When it was getting to Midnight, Anita’s friend was asking me what I wanted for the New Year, and I couldn’t keep it in anymore, it was like all the angry feelings inside me came out. They were all talking about the New Year like it was brilliant, and to me it was horrible. Nothing was good, so I told her friend, and I told Anita and I told anyone else who was going to listen. Everybody there wanted it to be all happy and nice, and to me how could it be nice? How could I think about. Happy New Year when my dad had left, my mum was drunk and I wasn’t able to look after my sister and brother.

Anita started to find me difficult after that. It wasn’t so much that anything bad happened, it was just a feeling I had. When I was in the room Josh and Connor would go quiet, or she always sat in between me and them like it was a problem. Not sure what it was, but it was like all the happy stuff had gone – I think it was because I didn’t want to say Happy New Year, and I didn’t want to think about big plans for the new Year. “

Daniel’s story is not uncommon. Looked-after children and young people, whilst many people remark on the apparent resilience of children, maybe mistake children’s short-term ability to adjust and cope. Maybe foster care should be as much about recognising the pressures children and young people endure through normal life, as it is about recognising the pain and horror of neglect and abuse. Daniel, whilst his life circumstances at home were not advantageous, had an established pattern of care. The disruption of his care, and his ability to care for his siblings at a time of year when everyone else was focused on revelry and ambition clearly was not an experience that he enjoyed or shared the joy. One could argue that disrupting family life at a time of year which stresses family perhaps even causes more extreme feelings than it does normally.

So Christmas and New Year for children and young people on foster care… do we ever really know how our fostered children and young people feel? If they are not as articulate or communicative as Daniel, do they themselves know? Or do we just assume that because we as adults, families or communities feel celebratory, hopeful and optimistic, that children and young people in care feel the same way too. It is an interesting, poignant and potentially painful question to ponder.

Fostering is about promoting the best outcomes for children and young people, through the dedication and hard work of foster carers.

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Child Adoptions, What to Expect

When people are not able to have children of their own, biologically, they may resort to child adoption. Also, there may be other people who adopt children who have been neglected or are orphan, just so they can provide them with a family that is helpful and affectionate. Regardless of the reason behind adoptions, it is not a decision to be taken lightly and needs to be carefully thought about.

Contributor: John Rammon

When people are not able to have children of their own, biologically, they may resort to child adoption. Also, there may be other people who adopt children who have been neglected or are orphan, just so they can provide them with a family that is helpful and affectionate. Regardless of the reason behind adoptions, it is not a decision to be taken lightly and needs to be carefully thought about.

Are You Ready To Adopt?

When you adopt children, you assume the liabilities for them, which besides giving you legal rights also makes you the legal parent. You are then fully responsible for the emotional and physical well-being of the child. Whether you are a couple or assume such a responsibility as an individual, it makes it incumbent on you to ensure that you’re ready for this. Before you decide, you need to also make sure that you’re financially and mentally capable of bringing up the child.

Child adoption is a process that can take a long time and prove discouraging at times. Many regulations and rules have to be taken into consideration. It is a process that can also prove draining, both financially and mentally. You, therefore, need to prepare yourself so that you can take on all the difficulties that the process of adoption will bring.

Child Adoption And the Law

Every state has its own laws governing adoptions. Learn about the ones in your own state before you start the process, as well as the ones in the state from which you intend to adopt. This will enable you to see that you comply with laws in both states. If the adoption is from another country than the US, the complications just get aggravated. You will have to look at the laws and rules in the country you are adopting from, as well as ensure that you have complied with those of the state and federal laws in the United States.

Adoption can be done in a number of ways. Find an adoption attorney or look at public and private agencies that do arrange adoption. In the United States, it is also possible to look at adopting children through the foster care system.

The judge’s consent in a court is a must for child adoption to be settled. The judge bases his or her decision on the permission given by the birth parents, and also auditing information about both the child and the prospective adoptive parents. This at times may involve a home study process.

The Challenges Of Adoptive Parents

As a new parent you will face the challenge of having the youngster accept their new family and home. At some point you will also need to inform the child about being adopted and part with information about his/her natural parents. These children, quite often have particular emotional and physical requirements, which the adoptive parents need to provide for. That’s another challenge you – as adoptive parent – you will have to deal with.

The decision to adopt a child can be difficult to make as a parent, but it ultimately brings a lot of bliss and satisfaction to adoptive parents. The child in turn, is assured a safe home with parents who are affectionate.

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Is Homeschooling Worth It

Are you considering homeschooling your child?

You might consider some pros and cons that may help you think more clearly about your child’s future.

Contributor: Jamilia Maroof

Are you considering homeschooling your child?

You might consider some pros and cons that may help you think more clearly about your child’s future.

PROS:-

The advantage of homeschooling kids is that they are free to learn whatever they want depending upon the curriculum their parents have designed for them. They are in a learning phase the whole day but in an interesting way. If we say this way that the parents would be able to teach them theoretically, as well as by giving them examples, or making that practice in their daily routines, and adopt that learning turning it into an exciting way of learning.

The family can make trips to different educational places whenever they want, not worrying about the time as well as they can go to vacations without an interruption of the school schedule. Older kids can be given different tasks during their vacations like budgeting for the family and choose the hotels and meals. They can also be given the task of road mapping and geography skills by telling them about the places they pass by.

Children who are very sensitive are protected in the home environment from bullies and can be protected from negative influences and are surrounded by loving family giving the child the right influence and positive environment. It can be effective to eliminate the stress of their kid if he is ridiculed and bullied. The kid should be taken out of the school for a certain period of time. If it is a serious case and the situation is getting worst day by day, then the parents are left with no choice and have to decide to get their kid out of the toxic environment and home school them for sometime.

It is most beneficial for a child who easily gets distracted and the children who have attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. The parents’ homeschooling these children would know their needs and could handle them more effectively as compared to the school. The parents can manage the time and eliminate the distractions that interfere with the child’s concentration. Parents can give them tasks to be done in fixed time and then give them small breaks depending upon the child’s response. The thing is that the child gets full attention by their parents and parents get to know their children better and have a better understanding of their behavior.

Children with learning disabilities can be homeschooled so that they do not feel left behind their class fellows and so that their self-confidence and self-esteem is not damaged. Let’s take an example of a child suffering from dyslexia that impacts his learning and decoding of words. He is uncomfortable going to school due to this condition. So, he can be homeschooled and his schedule can be designed in a unique way that suits his learning style and by discovering his strengths help him grow as a competitive individual.

CONS:-

The first problem that has to be considered is no matter how the parents design the schedule and try to give their kids the best education, they cannot meet the standards that a professional institute can give their child and the way the professional teachers convey the lecture. The child gets to interact not only with the fellow students, but he also interacts with the different teachers and the surroundings. In the break hours, he is able to play with different children provided a large playground for their outdoor activities.

The child follows a schedule and learns to get to the school at school timings on daily basis. He knows that he has to wake up early in the morning and then has no choice but to sleep early in the night, completing his homework on time. Indirectly he is learning time management by managing school timings, his homework, and time spent at home with his siblings and extracurricular activities. He is spending hours in the school so he gets to see different people and interacts with different surroundings, so he is not seeing his parents and siblings the whole day and get bored.

The kid learns to live with other children with different backgrounds, learn to share their things their ideas, and their perspectives. Unlike homeschooling where parents teach their children what’s right according to their beliefs and what they want their child to know. Here the child has no option but to follow their parents’ beliefs.

The kid has different opportunities to participate in different activities he is interested in like sports, writing, debate competition, speeches, arts, and many other creative activities. He has a motivation to compete with others and a competition to win. While in homeschooling the kid has no one to compete with him leading him to lack of motivation.

In my opinion, homeschooling is a good option for those kids who are physically or mentally challenged and they have difficulty coping up with other class fellows and feel left behind others. Otherwise I think the kids facing bullies should not be homeschooled for a long time on this basis, rather this situation should be handled in a different way by talking to the school management or changing the school, not by isolating them from the society because in future they have to face the society and it is better if they learn now how to cope up with such situations. Secondly, If children are homeschooled on this perception that the parents are protecting them from the negative environment, then they should think that for how long can they protect them from the evils of society? Someday their kids are going to have to encounter people and face the outer world.

Think about it! Take a while and make the right decision for your child.

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Taming Toddler Tantrums

Contributor: Angela Kidd

There are many ways to work through an outburst without trouble, and here are some of the most effective ways:

Prevention is key

Make sure that you take time each day to give your child your full attention. Set aside a regular playtime with just the two of you. Point out good behaviors, big or small. Positive experiences like this helps children control themselves better during upsetting times.

It’s also important to watch out for signs and situations that are likely to lead to an outburst and prevent them. If he throws a tantrum when he’s overtired, set a regular naptime.

Always keep your calm

When your child throws a fit, it’s either he wants to assert what he wants or feels that he has no control over a situation. The more upset he becomes, the calmer you should be – if you shout, the more likely he is to do so because they want to engage and match your volume.

Talk him down calmly and assure that everything will be okay, but be firm about the idea that he can’t always get what he wants. Speaking calmly will send the message that things can be worked out through talking. A big, firm hug will go a long way, too!

Observe and Listen

Tantrums also often roots from miscommunication. Since young toddlers (2.5 years and below) have a limited vocabulary, they often can’t say what they want. Or if they try to, the parents don’t understand.

Talk to your child calmly and ask what she wants – if she points to the TV, she probably wants to watch something specifically. If she points to a sibling, it probably means that the sibling has something to do with why she’s upset.

Offer something else

A great trick to make ids forget the meltdown they’re having is by creating a diversion. Offer something new to their eyes like a toy they haven’t played with in a while, a new book or a new yummy snack.

You can also let them play outside – a change of environment will surely boost their mood and forget their outburst.

Don’t engage

When nothing seems to work, sometimes ignoring your child while throwing a fit will. Sometimes children just want to vent and let their feelings out (like us adults do). Let him cry for a few minutes and then try the abovementioned tactics again when he starts to calm down.

Toddler tantrums are a normal part of growing up – young kids are yet to grasp how they can handle their feelings and it’s up to us parents to guide them accordingly.

Angela Kidd is an author and illustrator, a wife and a mother to 3 beautiful kids. In her spare time, she would personally create storybooks and coloring books for her children for fun and they loved it.. And so did she. Angela quit her job and created her own line of educational activity books for children of various ages, with the main goal of making learning fun!

Simple Ways to Teach Children to be Grateful

Life is not fair, and sometimes it’s up to us parents to bring up a child who will be able to appreciate the little, and big things, that life has to offer. Most parents strive to teach their children to be grateful for the small and big things in their lives. True gratitude can be instilled through small principals.

Contributor: Bob Tom

Life is not fair, and sometimes it’s up to us parents to bring up a child who will be able to appreciate the little, and big things, that life has to offer. Most parents strive to teach their children to be grateful for the small and big things in their lives. True gratitude can be instilled through small principles.

Gratitude is having an appreciation for everything you have been blessed with and acknowledging that these small gifts are a blessing, regardless.According to research, when gratitude is instilled in the early ages of our children’s lives it leads to happier lives. This happiness shows at school, at home, and in the relationships they build with their loved ones, as well as their friends.

When a child is taught to be grateful from an early age, this positive characteristic is portrayed even in their adolescence and adulthood. Many people who were not raised to be thankful from a tender age tend to struggle with the concept, especially when they reach adulthood. So, how can you teach children to be appreciative of all things in their lives – big or small?

Teach by Action

One of the simplest ways to teach your child to be grateful is by exercising the same concept yourself. Children, from an early age, tend to mold their behaviors based on how they see grownups behaving. “Grownup” here means parents, relatives, teachers, and any other adult that your child has constant interactions with.

Have you ever heard the term “practice what you preach?” This is one of those occasions where it’s advisable to show your little ones that you not only expect them to exercise this act, but you are willing to do the same.

Raising children requires patience, kindness, compassion, responsibility, and the list goes on. When we practice this, our kids absorb it. Leading by example is the finest and hardest lesson in raising good people. Giving one’s self to a higher purpose, such as teaching gratitude, is one of the best things we can do for our little ones when they are at a tender and impressionable age.

A simple way to achieve this is by introducing a family routine where everyone sits down on a daily basis and says what they are thankful for, regardless of how small. This will eventually set the wheels in motion and hopefully, show your children that there is much in this world to always be appreciative of.

Spread Love

There is no better way to teach your kids about love than by caring for those around you. Being generous with what little you have allows your kid to start being considerate of others’ feelings, and not just their own. Encourage your young one to share with the less fortunate or their friends. Instead of always considering what they would want for Christmas, why not encourage them to also think of other presents they would like to give to the people they love?

We all want to give our kids everything they want, but sometimes buying everything for them can cause more harm than good. You need to teach them to value what they receive without expecting more. If your child winds up having as many toys as they please, they will not appreciate their possessions. They will always want something shinier and newer because they have been brought up with the notion that all they need to do is point and it’s theirs.

Depending on their age, your young one can start giving back to the community. Make helping a community part of your family activity. Start volunteering at a nursing home, at homeless shelters, etc. When your children start interacting with those who are less fortunate, those with health problems, they will begin to be appreciative of small things such as their health, their family, their home, which they would have otherwise taken for granted.

Another lovely tradition to introduce would be encouraging your children to donate their old toys to charity. Perhaps instill a “one in, one out” policy where, if they are to get a new toy, then they’ll have to part with an old one. Children tend to form tight bonds with their toys so that this lesson can be very educational for them.

Instead of just donating these old toys to charity via mail, why not take your child with you to a charity home where they will be able to see first-hand the joys their old toys bring to a less fortunate child? This lesson will not only teach gratitude but compassion as well.

Let Them Work for It

You need your kin to understand that things don’t just magically appear when they want them. An excellent way to instill this is by letting them earn their rewards. Start distributing simple chores for their allowance.

Teach them to save up for what they want and only then can they buy it – this will educate them about money and its value. It’ll also enable them to care for their possessions and appreciate what they have. This lesson will also allow them to get a realistic perspective on what their parents do them.

Encourage “Thank-You” Notes

Sending handwritten ‘thank-you’ notes is a dying profession and one that we think children should be encouraged to participate in. When your kid receives gifts, parents should help them to send out thank-you notes to every single person who bought them a present.

This doesn’t only have to be practiced when gifts are involved. Encourage them to give thanks to their teachers, their pediatricians, family members, etc. – there are tons of opportunities for your child to recognize a kind gesture and be thankful for it. If they start young, this habit will become a part of them as they transition into adulthood.

The Glass is Always Half Full

It’s human nature sometimes to view the world in a negative perspective. Many of us complain and despair about small matters (this is very normal), but it can be helpful if, as a parent, you could perhaps try and always find a silver lining. Teach your child/children to find something positive in every circumstance.

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Bring Out the Best in You and Your Child With This Good Parenting Guide

Although we require a license for doing numerous things in life, there is no requirement of a license for becoming a parent and this is sometimes the most difficult of all our daily activities. These days, parenting is far trickier than it was, even one generation before. Numerous well-intentioned parents are utilizing inefficient and outdated parenting styles. And as a result, they encounter regular stress and frustration in their house.

Contributor: Bruce Thomsan

Although we require a license for doing numerous things in life, there is no requirement of a license for becoming a parent and this is sometimes the most difficult of all our daily activities. These days, parenting is far trickier than it was, even one generation before. Numerous well-intentioned parents are utilizing inefficient and outdated parenting styles. And as a result, they encounter regular stress and frustration in their house.

Exploring Top Six Good Parenting Skills In Brief

Let’s check out top 6 good parenting tips which will motivate kids to want for being well behaved, can enhance family joy and mitigate family fights.

1. Self-care is important

Giving our kids an establishment to become a healthy and happy adult is one of the best things we can do for our kids. However, you should forget to take care of yourself. Self-care must be a necessity, not a luxury for parents. To be a good parent, you require self-care so you can become a balanced and healthy human being too. There are numerous kids who live with parents who are not fun to be around and always stressed out. If you are always getting stress, it will not be a pleasant experience for you or your family.

2. Put your marriage before your children

Some kids these days are raised with a very poor sense of privilege because their parents have made them the core of the world. With the statistics of divorce still hanging around 50%, kids are also sometimes coping with failing, unhappy marriages, and divorce – quite worse for them than missing out on a pair of brand name clothes or toys. So, take your stand and put some efforts and time into your marriage-for the sake of your entire family.

3. Care for your kids

Regardless of your situation-no matter how often the kids make you literally crazy-know there are numerous people in this universe who would delightfully exchange places with you. There are some couples who are ready to offer everything for only having a kid. Try to remember how really lucky you are. So, hug your kid at least 3 times every day. Let them know regularly how fortunate you are for having the scope to be their parent.

4. Concentrate on what you prefer

In case kids are not being praised or getting attention for what they do properly and when they behave properly, you should believe they are going to learn to get attention to not behaving properly. If you observe more what you prefer regarding what they are doing, they are less likely to change into devastating small terrors and the more likely you will motivate your kid for repeating the good behaviors and accomplishments you prefer.

5. Give your family much-required quality time

This is another important parenting advice to remember. Spend time with your kids to have fun with them. Enjoying each other’s company, tickling and laughing are the establishments of a healthy and happy house. Having fun can go long ways towards stopping the unnecessary conflict and behaviors which make you crazy. It also offers your family the much-required quality time.

6. Give respect to your kid and expect it in return

Never do anything to your kid which you would not want the kid for doing to you. There are many things you don’t wish to be doing incorporate: putting downs, spitting, hitting, yelling, etc. There are some better ways to deal with stress, conflict, and common misbehaviors. Follow a good parenting guide and dedicate to learning good parenting skills which depend on mutual respect – not the fear-based punishment which just makes our children learn to not get caught again.

Verdict

These 6 aforementioned good parenting tips are fun, effective and child-proofed. Take some time to learn to bring out the best in you and your kid so you can get the ultimate mind peace – knowing that you did everything to lead a healthy and happy family life.

The author is a counselor and an expert to give good parenting advice through her articles. She has discussed some child-proofed good parenting tips in her articles that would help you mitigate your stress at an ease.

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3 Ways to Make Your Backyard More Fun for Kids

As a parent, it’s your job to fill your home with creative, fun and inspiring ideas that will encourage your child to create, explore and relax no matter where they are in your house.

Contributor: Angela Kidd

As a parent, it’s your job to fill your home with creative, fun and inspiring ideas that will encourage your child to create, explore and relax no matter where they are in your house.

Here are some effective ways to make your backyard more fun for children:

Build a Rock Spot

A rock spot is basically a play area in your yard filled with gravel – a great place for children to play with their cars, trucks and construction toys as well as animals. You can use a small inflatable swimming pool or create a 4 x 5 pit by using large rocks or pieces of wood to contain the gravel.

About 5 bags of pea gravel (about 50 pounds each bag) will be used in such area. Add some small wood planks that children can use as ramps or branches and sticks to build anything. A rock spot would be a great addition to any home because it’s great for sensory learning.

Install a large chalkboard

The easiest way to do this is to use a store-bought large chalkboard, but this can be expensive. Instead, you can opt to make your own. The first step would be to make homemade chalkboard paint (this will last longer than the store-bought variety and can weather outdoor conditions better).

With each cup of exterior latex enamel paint you use, mix it with 2 tablespoons of unsanded tile grout. Use this mixture to paint a large piece of plywood (better to do the mixtures one cup at a time for a more even blending).

Once dry, hang the chalkboard at kid height in an area in your backyard and provide plenty of colourful non-toxic chalks. You’ll be thankful to keep the chalk dust outside!

Create a play pond

You know much we loved to create those paper boats and we would float them in the tub during bath time when we were kids? Your children would love it, too, and they get to play with water even when it’s not time for a bath!

Plus children love playing water, and a play pond would be a great way to cool them down during hot summer days.

A large plant saucer works best. Place it on the ground in your yard and fill it water. It would be fun to sit down with your children beforehand and teach them how to make paper boats. Once you have the pond ready, the kids can enjoy racing their boats!

Add bath toys, toy aquatic animals and some bubbles to add to the fun!

You don’t have to spend too much money taking your young ones to theme parks or play houses often, you can have your own version of fun in your very own backyard!

Angela Kidd is an author and illustrator, a wife and a mother to 3 beautiful kids. In her spare time, she would personally create storybooks and coloring books for her children for fun and they loved it.. And so did she. Angela quit her job and created her own line of educational activity books for children of various ages, with the main goal of making learning fun! You can check out some of Angela’s amazing books here.

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The Four Parenting Styles

There are just as many parenting styles as there are a number of parents. Experts believe the parenting styles fall into 4 different and identifiable styles: authoritarian, indulgent, authoritative, and uninvolved.

By: Hanif Khaki

The following article offers some insight to those involved in the wonderful world known as Parenting.

There are just as many parenting styles as there are a number of parents. Experts believe the parenting styles fall into 4 different and identifiable styles: authoritarian, indulgent, authoritative, and uninvolved.

Let’s examine this more closely. The first parenting style is that of the authoritarian parent. These parents are like army commanders. They prefer to issue commands and orders to their children and fully expect their children to carry out their orders without questioning them. Authoritarians do not welcome nor appreciate any feedback from their children. They live by set and defined rules in a structured environment.. These children as we now know, are generally considered to have an unhappy nature about them. Boys generally exhibit hostile behaviour when dealing with frustration, whereas girls tend to give up easily when faced with difficult situations. Both the boys and girls however, tend to perform better in school due to their disciplined upbringing.

The second parenting style is the indulgent parent. These parents are generally lenient. They allow a variety of behaviours by their children that some would describe as immature. Essentially, they let the children look after themselves and avoid confronting them at all costs. Indulgent parents may also be described as non-directive or democratic. Non-directive parents are known to parent by default, that is, by taking virtually no action in parenting of their children. Democratic parents, though lenient, are more aware and show a committment to engage with their children.

The third parenting style is that of the authoritative parent. These parents are both demanding and responsive at the same time. Authoritative parents while expecting their their children to behave in a certain manner, don’t impose their authority and welcome a certain amount of questioning. They demonstrate a combination of assertiveness coupled with the ability to respond to their children’s feedback. These children appear to be more lively and have a happier disposition about them. Their self-confidence is more developed they seem to be more sure of their abilities. These children also show better emotional control and are more adept in their social skills. Gender stereotypes are also less of an issue with authoritative parents, as they tend to be more open minded in their outlook towards their children’s behaviour, i.e. boys playing with dolls and girls playing with tools.

Lastly, we look at the parenting style known as “uninvolved parenting”. As the name suggests, these parents are simply uninvolved. They are neither demanding nor responsive of their children and they are not interested in any feedback from them. These parents are the most likely to be irresponsible and more often neglect their children.

We hope you found the above information insightful and will seek out the many more resources available on this topic online.

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Granddad, My School Teacher Says Profit is a Dirty Word

This is the wonder of profit. The business owner is happy, the customers are happy, jobs have been created, tax has been paid, the local area has a smart restaurant, everybody has benefitted and no-one has been hurt. This is the magic of business that I will tell you a lot more about in the coming articles.

By John A. Faulkner

Grandad, my schoolteacher says that profit is a dirty word. Is that right?

It most certainly is not right but maybe he means that some profit is dirty because it is made by lying, cheating and selling shoddy goods. This happens but businesses doing this do not last long and the people doing it can be fined or sent to prison.

Most businesses are better than this. A successful business creates income by selling things or providing services that people want. Consider a simple example such as a restaurant. The food has to be good, the service excellent, the price not too expensive and the business owner has to obey lots of laws about health and safety. He or she has to pay suppliers, pay staff, pay electricity and gas, pay council rates, pay tax and pay many other costs.

He has to bring in money from his customers and he has to pay all his costs. The money coming in has to be more than the money going out. Otherwise he will not be able to continue. The difference between income and costs is profit. Therefore profit is far from being a dirty word. It is an essential sign that the business is being run correctly and will survive.

There are a lot of other benefits that result from a business making a profit. Can you think what they are? Firstly the business owner will have the money to invest in the future – new equipment, better furniture, maybe even new or extra premises.

Secondly he will be able to pay off money that he might have borrowed to start the business. He (or, of course, she) will be able to save some money or invest in pensions for him and his staff. The business person who makes a profit can make donations to charity and many successful business people do this.

From the business point of view there is yet another reason for appreciating the value of profit. Profit makes a business more valuable, not only by putting money in the bank but more importantly creating something that can make money in the future. The value of a business is not only its property and its money in the bank, it is the value of profits it can make in the future.

Suppose our restaurant owner starts by buying a run-down property which has a bad reputation and virtually no customers, therefore not making a profit. It is such a mess that he was able to buy it for $50,000. By hard work, good cooking and good service he is able to build a successful business that five years later it is thriving and making a profit of $100,000 per year. He has probably re-invested some of his profits each year to buy the best kitchen equipment and spent money on decor and furniture, so his total investment might be an extra $200,000. The good news for him is that he can, if he wishes, sell the business for more than his total investment of $250,000. Why? Because the business has profits of $100,000, giving the business extra value. Such a business could easily be worth $750,000 or more.

This is the wonder of profit. The business owner is happy, the customers are happy, jobs have been created, tax has been paid, the local area has a smart restaurant, everybody has benefitted and no-one has been hurt. This is the magic of business that I will tell you a lot more about in the coming articles.

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Social Media and the Teenager

As a teenager there are many pressures to contend with. The social and academic pressures of school life, maybe the stress of leaving one school for another, fitting in, being accepted and acceptable, studying, keeping family happy with your progress, are all potentially stressful considerations.

By Susan Leigh

As a teenager there are many pressures to contend with. The social and academic pressures of school life, maybe the stress of leaving one school for another, fitting in, being accepted and acceptable, studying, keeping family happy with your progress, are all potentially stressful considerations.

Then, of course, there may be stresses at home, family concerns, problems with siblings and the personal issues that often accompany being a teenager; feeling different, uncertain about themselves, comparing themselves to others, fear of missing out.

Social media is a natural part of life for many people with statistics regularly being reported on its usage. Analysts say we check our mobile phones every 12 minutes and spend an average of 3 hours 15 minutes every day on the internet, mostly on sites owned by Google and Facebook.

Whilst it’s valuable to be connected to the bigger world outside there are also worrying aspects about the internet and especially around social media that cause concern regarding its influence on teenagers.

Social media can be a force for good or bad. Certainly chat rooms and forums can be a great place for someone who feels friendless and alone, with no one to talk to about how they’re feeling. Finding reassurance, answers to questions from people experiencing similar issues can stop a teenager feeling alienated, isolated and alone.

It can also help us tap into unexpected audiences, reach people we would never have been able to introduce ourselves to and, as a consequence, their friends. We have the potential with social media to speak to a vast audience, a community of like-minded people.

But there are others aspects of social media which are not so rosy. A degree of caution needs to be exercised. Living in a virtual world where we’re constantly checking our phones can persuade us that online is the real world, where the things we see and are being told there are the truth.

Which is why it’s important to;

– Choose who to follow with caution and recognise what their agenda might be. Be alert to the dangers of being groomed by someone who’s not who or what they claim to be, is encouraging you to do things you’re not comfortable with. Or maybe they’re aiming to become an influencer, are allied to specific products, gradually introducing and recommending certain goods or services, courting new followers and essentially running sales pitches. Step back and notice what’s really going on.

– Remember it’s your call, you can unfollow if you want to. If something doesn’t suit you anymore or you’ve become unhappy at what you’re regularly seeing you can choose to disengage and stop it. And if posts are appearing that you don’t like, that distress you, affect you negatively or you’re uneasy about trust your gut and block them. It’s your device, your media stream; close the door and don’t let them in.

– Set a limit for your time online, and use that time more efficiently. Yes, you may see your online family as a real, key element of your life, relationships that are genuine and supportive. It’s the only place you can be yourself and you need to keep that in your life, but actual person-to-person relationships are important too. Many people increasingly work, shop and manage their lives online, so it can provide less and less reason to leave the house. But relationships, learning to interact with others, develop social skills, understand yourself better all require some movement away from devices and an engagement in face-to-face communications.

– Meet others in person and experience the spontaneity and diversity of life. Incorporate personal development and growth by accepting that sometimes things may not go so well. You may make mistakes, be rejected, look silly. That’s fine, it’s part of life and an important way to evolve and mature as a person.

– Take charge and decide not to spread negativity and gossip on your social media feed. Commit to share only good news. You may think one person on their own cannot make much difference but when each of us takes a stand we can sprinkle sunshine in our tiny corner of the world. Be the person who shares positivity, good results and happiness. Influence, maybe in a small way, your social media feed, your world, your audience.

– Step outside your comfort zone. Join a class, a gym, a group. Visit the same places regularly and you’ll find you start to meet the same people. Get used to making an effort, dressing smarter, having to turn up promptly – a different set of skills which are required in offline modern life. Challenge yourself each day.

In the same way you’ve found your place and have been accepted online remember too to keep a tentative toe in the offline world and allow yourself to get to know many of those people who equally share your concerns and insecurities. Watch how others behave together, pick up some hints and tips, so learning different ways to contribute to conversations, enhance your social skills and develop a more confident approach to each area of life.

Susan Leigh, counsellor, hypnotherapist, relationship counsellor, writer & media contributor offers help with relationship issues, stress management, assertiveness and confidence. She works with individual clients, couples and provides corporate workshops and support.

She’s author of 3 books, ‘Dealing with Stress, Managing its Impact’, ‘101 Days of Inspiration #tipoftheday’ and ‘Dealing with Death, Coping with the Pain’, all on Amazon & with easy to read sections, tips and ideas to help you feel more positive about your life.

To order a copy or for more information, help and free articles visit http://www.lifestyletherapy.net

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