A Change Will Do You Good

As the last rays of summer’s warmth ebb away and the gentle breezes of autumn waft themselves upon us, we recognize once again, that change is inevitable. Nature is constantly changing and yet, so many people have the notion that change is frightening.

Contributor: Sharron Myers

As the last rays of summer’s warmth ebb away and the gentle breezes of autumn waft themselves upon us, we recognize once again, that change is inevitable. Nature is constantly changing and yet, so many people have the notion that change is frightening.

People are creatures of habit and some find it difficult to adjust to changes that are certain to come our way. Life is like an old, comfortable pair of shoes. We may realize that we need new ones and we may even find new ones we really like, but, we know that changing will cause us discomfort for a little while until we break them in.

Sometimes we need to realize that life isn’t always easy. What may be better for us is not what we are used to, but it is certainly worth the trouble of breaking in new habits and lifestyle changes.

Change does not have to be painful. Just look to nature and it will give you clues to how change can be effortless. The beautifully colored autumn leaves do not hang on to the old tree for dear life. No, they yield to the changes with ease and float gently off the tree.

With the coming of autumn we have been busy in our gardens pulling up the old stuff and getting ready for a time of rest. We know that the ground must rest and next year there will be more wonderful things in our garden to delight us. 

Are there things in your life that need to be gently eased out of your life? Maybe there are bad relationships or habits or thoughts that need to be weeded out of your life. Don’t be afraid to do a little gardening in your own life. 

Every gardener knows that unless we get to the roots, we really are not getting rid of the problem. It may go away for awhile but unless we get to the root, it will sneak back into the garden very quickly.

Although the harvest time is here there is no time to stop weeding the garden of our minds. This garden needs constant attention in order for us to flourish and be all that we can be. The only way to keep this garden in top shape is to make sure that no weeds are there trying to strangle any good we are trying to do. The weeds of our mind, of course are negative thoughts that like to creep in and keep us from achieving that which we are striving for. 

William James said, “Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives. 

How do we change the inner attitudes of our minds? By changing the way we think. We must put fear and negativity behind us. How, you ask? Just as the leaves of autumn gently blow from the tree, don’t try and make a change in your thinking over night and expect to get instant results. We cannot rip these thoughts out of our minds, as much as we would like to sometimes. No, we need to be gentle on ourselves and let positive thoughts replace the negative. 

Yes it will take some work on your part. You must constantly fill your mind with positive thoughts. Proverbs 27: 3 says, As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. We are what we think. When the negative thoughts come into your mind, you must be ready and willing to replace those thoughts with positive ones. Just say to yourself, no, I won’t let that thought take over my mind, I will think positively. Affirmations are good to have readily available so you can replace the negative thought with the positive one. It won’t be easy, it won’t be hard either, it will just be different, like that new pair of shoes we were talking about earlier. 

The autumn leaves fall to make way for new life. We too must go through changes that will bring new growth to our bodies, souls and spirits.

Change is inevitable, so why fight it? Why be afraid of it? Yes, change will require us to do a bit of readjusting but it is always worth it. Don’t be afraid of change, a change will do you good.

Author Bio
This article is bought to you by Sharron Myers (sharronmyers@googlemail.com)
Sharron Myers has been a teacher of Spiritual Truth for over 30 years. She also is a Certified Aromatherapist and Personal Development Consultant. Be sure to check out her site: www.sharron-myers.com

Reinvent Your Life by Changing What You Do Each Day to Create Your Future by Design

You can reinvent your life by making small changes to what you are doing in your daily activities. For example, if you wish to leave your job and to begin a new career as an entrepreneur, you would want to take a class to learn something that would help you make this transition. This would give you an opportunity to hone your skills and to determine exactly what you want to do. If you are thinking about making a huge change in your life, get started right away with a plan to make that happen.

Contributor: Connie Ragen Green 

You can reinvent your life by making small changes to what you are doing in your daily activities. For example, if you wish to leave your job and to begin a new career as an entrepreneur, you would want to take a class to learn something that would help you make this transition. This would give you an opportunity to hone your skills and to determine exactly what you want to do. If you are thinking about making a huge change in your life, get started right away with a plan to make that happen.

No matter what your age or previous circumstances, you can reinvent yourself by moving to a new city, starting a business, or becoming involved in new activities that will stimulate you. I did this at age 50, when I decided to leave my position as a classroom teacher and work exclusively on the Internet. The first year was a difficult transition for me, because I had not prepared myself for this change. My recommendation is to do some research into what you want to do, before actually doing it.

After that first year I was off to a great start. I now write every day, something I had wanted to do for years. I also moved to a new city and became involved with several charities and non-profit organizations. Making these changes gave me a fresh start with a life I could not have even imagined before.

Don’t let anyone or anything dissuade you from making the changes you want to make to your life. Reinvention is a personal process that everyone deserves to experience.

Remember that the reason to start an Internet business is to give you the time and financial freedom to live the life you choose. Find out more by visiting Reinvent Yourself Now [http://reinventyourselfandyourbusiness.com] and get started today with a life that is more rewarding to you. You deserve it!

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How do I find my purpose?

This is probably one of the most commonly asked questions that I get when talking to people. They will usually ask me that question after they have heard me talking about the importance of knowing why you are and how fulfilling your life will become when you find your purpose and begin to pursue it. Who am I? Why am I here? These questions have been asked for centuries. This question can be found in the birth of exploration, it was the spark of many wars and conquest and it has birthed countless philosophies and religions.

Contributor: David Alan White

This is probably one of the most commonly asked questions that I get when talking to people. They will usually ask me that question after they have heard me talking about the importance of knowing why you are and how fulfilling your life will become when you find your purpose and begin to pursue it. Who am I? Why am I here? These questions have been asked for centuries. This question can be found in the birth of exploration, it was the spark of many wars and conquest and it has birthed countless philosophies and religions.

How do I find My Purpose? Can You See It?

AL Hollingsworth taught me a very important lesson; if you can’t see it, it’s very hard to do it. That isn’t verbatim but, the concept stays true. It looks something like this: if I asked you to hand me a pooku shmooku, what would you hand me? Exactly! But if I told you that a pooku shmooku was like a pencil, then when I asked you to hand me a pooku shmooku, what would you hand me? Exactly! You would hand me a pencil.

You had to first see what it was before you could take some action. This is very important when you are in the planning/vision part of your process. It amazes me how a potter can take a lump of clay and see the finished product in that lump of clay and begin to pull it out of the lump of clay so to speak; they see it first, and then they begin the process of bringing it into existence. This may appear to be a very simplistic outlook but, it is very applicable. When I said that you have to see it before you can do it could start out as a simple thought or idea.

Any successful endeavor requires the ability to see what it should and will look like; there may be some minor or even major adjustments that take place after the work begins but, there must be a vision first. What do you see? There is one thing that I think is very important to remind yourself as you navigate through this process and that is the fact that it can take some time before you truly find out what your purpose is. Many times the answer is directly in front of you but most people tend to overlook it or ignore it because it is so obvious. From the time I was in the fifth grade you would find me helping out people especially if they were being bullied or the perceived underdog.

Well, I have always been that type of person; even if I felt helpless to do anything about helping someone. Injustice would drive me crazy and I lived a life in my early years as a quiet rebel. I would have so many plans to help people, adults and kids alike; I can remember wanting to stop teachers from being so mean to some of the kids in my classes that seemed to take the brunt of the teacher’s wrath. I would often sit in a quiet anger, stewing and steaming as I witnessed injustice happen right in front of me.

I’m sure that many of you who are reading this and nodding your head as you remember whatever it is that was your hot button. If you were to take an objective look at your past, I’m sure you will begin to see certain patterns that may give you a clue as to why you are. I’m sure that there are some people that are reading this blog post and have a pretty good idea of what your purpose is but, you may have never thought of it as your purpose, it’s just something that you do naturally.

For me, vision is tied to direction; how can anyone reach their destination, their goal without knowing how to get there? I always say that it’s a lot like loading up the SUV and hitting the open road to go somewhere you’ve never been and you don’t have some sort of GPS system or roadmap. You can take a chance on asking some random person on the street and hope they know what they’re talking about or you can hope for the best as you head out in the direction that feels right to you, you just know that this is the right way to go. Hmm, that’s a little sketch for me.

How do I find My Purpose? Are You Strong Enough?

Okay, so here’s the part where I hopefully don’t lose some people; this is the part where I use that dreaded four letter word – work! Many people desire to be a change agent; they want to be that person of significance. So, here comes the heavy lifting so to speak; it is extremely difficult to have a vision for your future when you are struggling with your present and if we’re going to go there, some of you are stuck in your past. Think about it; here you (your emotions, memories and identity) are stuck in the past as you are trying to get to the future as you flounder in the present.

There are so many times when you tried so hard to move forward but will often find yourself back where you started and you can’t figure it out; “why does this keep happening?” The heavy lifting that I was referring to is this; if you want to become unstuck in areas of your life, if you know exactly what your purpose or goals are but you just can’t see it, if you are desperate for things to change then there is something that I would like for you to consider. I was told this not too long ago; we construct our life story and our life story could be working against us.

Based on the things that were spoken to us and into us, we begin to develop how life is, due to the things that we witnessed at an early age, because of some of the things that happened to us and how we experienced life as a whole; we then begin to embark on a life that will confirm what we have previously concluded how our life will be. Many people are oblivious to how they tend to repeat the same activities; they tend to have the same thought processes, the same relationship patterns and continue to repeat the same types of behaviors. Why is this? Because this type of living doesn’t require any type of change and because there is zero requirements to change the cycle, this “rinse and repeat” cycle has become a safe place to stay.

The interesting thing about this “life cycle” that we’re living in can be easily justified; we work hard to defend the things that happen to us and then blame those things on why we remain stuck. So, the question is this; what are you willing to do to allow change to take place in your life?

How do I find My Purpose? Edit Your Story

So much of the story that we constructed about how our life will be is lived in the past. People tend to stay here because it is easier to prove and confirm what we what we predicted our life to be. If we are living in the past, how can we see what’s in the future? Because of this vicious cycle many people resign themselves to a fruitless pursuit of trying but, never accomplishing their goal of purpose. We have become so bogged down with settling for compromise that we become satisfied with counterfeits. I gotta tell ya, this is not a fun place to be in and I know from personal experience!

Here’s something that I want you to think about, you can break this current “life cycle” if you want to! I’m gonna run this up the flagpole and see if anyone salutes it; would it surprise you to know that you can actually move from living in the past to living in the present? When we choose to live in the now, the present, we find that there are endless possibilities present and available to us because we are present. If we are present in our daily lives, then we have the opportunity to face things that are presently happening to us and around us head on without being afraid of being wrong or failing. When we remain present we see things clearer, we can look at all of the possibilities that at our disposal.

When you are present, you become responsible for your life and the awesome thing about that truth is this; once you start becoming responsible for your live and learn how to operate without those previous restrictions from your past, you can see something really good. You can see that you can start to rewrite our live story, yep! You can create a new life story and begin to live out your life in a way that proves and confirms what you predict your new life will be! I teach many people how to reconstruct their life story and then I get to see them accomplish things that they never thought they would be able to do. Once you are able to see clearer, you are able to get a better understanding of why you are and not what your past told you.

Once you are able to see clearer, you become aware of those things that lay hidden in that life of the past; when you are able to see all of the possibilities that are available you, you become aware of all those things that have been speaking to the question that used to elude you time and time again. And that question is “why am I here?” “What am I supposed to be doing?” You find your purpose when you stop living in the past as you try to get to a future that you always wanted but could never see. When you choose to stay in the present and take responsibility for your life, you are able to become that change agent that we so desperately need. It takes some determined editing on your part but you can do it.

Disappointment, discouragement and distractions can cause us to feel stuck in life and we often lose sight of our hopes, dreams, purpose and goals. It is never too late to make a course correction in your life. For more information, please visit http://dreamagainrestorativeprograms.org/

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The Psychology of Happiness

Are you happy? And if you aren’t happy, do you know how to become happy? For some, happiness is often an elusive or fleeing experience. Some people will go to great lengths to stay in moments of happiness. how many of us have done silly things over and over again, just to hear our children laugh often leaving disappointed when they stop.

Contributor: Ann Poorboy

Are you happy? And, if you aren’t happy, do you know how to become happy? For some, happiness is often an elusive or fleeting experience. Some people will go to great lengths to stay in moments of happiness. How many of us have done silly things over and over again, just to hear our children laugh often leaving disappointed when they stop.

Even the U.S. Declaration of Independence, written in 1776, asserts the right to “Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness”.

There are a lot of published works about the psychology and philosophy of happiness. Most theories about happiness focus on an individual finding satisfaction, contentment, and spiritual freedom as the source of happiness. Still, happiness seems to be more of a subjective experience and one in which several factors can be at play. Unlike anger or fear which have specific physical reactions followed by predictable behaviors, happiness is different. For example, work makes some of us happy – the feeling of contribution, where others find happiness in food – perhaps for memories of home, or just the pleasure of eating, and yet others find contentment in romantic relationships. Happiness is very individual and can even change into different types of happiness. Some think happiness should be sought but never truly explained, like G.K. Chesterton in the quote below.

“Happiness is a mystery like religion, and should never be rationalized.”
G.K. Chesterton, English author (1874-1936)

There are some predictable elements in happiness. For example, happiness is usually associated with some kind of gain or attainment. When we achieve or attain something, we feel satisfied and this triggers happiness. The attainment does not have to be material, it could very well be spiritual. As a chronic insomniac, I find happiness in 8 hours of truly restful sleep. So, to define happiness for ourselves, we need to locate what has made us happy in the past. Was it a specific material, spiritual, physical, romantic gain, or was it something else? Are you able to find happiness without gaining something. It’s possible, however, studies indicate that it usually involves a need being fulfilled, regardless of how big or small that need is.

Because it’s so individualized, happiness is difficult to quantify. But there are measurable benefits to a happy mindset over that of a realistic or pessimistic mindset. Psychologists have used several models including bio psychosocial and other models to explain happiness suggesting that happiness is attained when our biological, psychological and sociological needs are met or when there is pleasure, engagement, relationships, meaning, and accomplishments. These models suggest that sustained happiness involves something deeper than just fleeting pleasures. The sustainability of happiness seems to correlate to the the level or depth of the attainment.

Some people would be happy when their basic needs are fulfilled whereas some others would not be happy even after significant professional accomplishments as they may be expecting some other level or kind of achievement. Or because the hard work they put into the accomplishment was fear based. Happiness also largely depends on our ability to love ourselves as well as our understanding of what it means to be happy.

The contagiousness of happiness is not limited to direct relationships: it can influence the happiness of people by up to 3 degrees of separation from the original individual

When it comes to observing happiness in others, it can be difficult. A seemingly happy person may not be genuinely happy. And a depressed person may be able to convince you they are happy as a defensive mechanism.

The need fulfilment or attainment that triggers happiness could be biological such as bodily pleasures as when we quench our thirst, satisfy physical desires etc. The attainment could be social when we form relationships and feel happy or simply talk to strangers at a large event or remain engaged in social activity, or the attainment could be spiritual when we seek and even find some kind of spiritual liberation. The attainment or need fulfilment could be psychological when our love needs are fulfilled or when we reach our goals or fulfil our ambitions. The biological, psychological, social and spiritual aspects of attainment could provide happiness according to their needs. Thus happiness is intricately tied to our specific needs although these needs could be interrelated as for example the need for status or power could be both social and psychological.

Factors that could lead to happiness:

1. Biological (bodily pleasures, basic needs)

2. Social (status, relationships, social activity and engagement)

3. Psychological (emotional, love, friendship, personal accomplishments)

4. Spiritual (finding meaning and purpose, transpersonal needs)

There could be several reactions to happiness and this could range from smiling to engaging in rigorous physical activity as happiness could mean a sudden surge in energy levels. People who engage in physical activity are more likely to be happy due to improved blood circulation and general good health. However happiness being an extremely subjective emotional state, in order to feel genuinely happy, some achievement in terms of long term goals such as love or conjugal life, wealth, spiritual liberation, or professional achievement could help a person to attain a continued happy state of mind. This is the prolonged state of happiness that has causes similar to any transient state of happiness although the effects could be long lasting.

To achieve a prolonged state of happiness, encourage yourself to be more lively, sporty, fun loving, and optimistic. Remember transient states of happiness are more common so embrace them when they’re here. And, prolonged states of happiness are inevitably interrupted by adverse life events so work on your plan to move past the bad moments and find ways to regain your joy. Also remember that quiet contentment is a form of happiness.

References:

Reflections in Psychology – Part I – by Saberi Roy (2009)

http://www.lulu.com/content/5865445

Reflections in Psychology – Part II – by Saberi Roy (2011)

https://www.psychologistworld.com/emotion/psychology-of-happiness-positive-affect

What Optimistic People Know that You May Have Missed

I’ve been fascinated by human behavior for as long as I can remember. One of the many things I’ve learned is that happy and optimistic people seem to thrive, realists seem to survive somehow, and pessimists seem to attract more than their fair share of unhappiness.

Contributor: Ann Poorboy

I’ve been fascinated by human behavior for as long as I can remember. One of the many things I’ve learned is that happy and optimistic people seem to thrive, realists seem to survive somehow, and pessimists seem to attract more than their fair share of unhappiness.

If life were like a radio station, your emotional presence seems to “tune” you in to a particular station giving you even more of what you focus on. I have often said that worry is a prayer for that thing you do not want and I truly believe that. While we all have bad days, optimists will either find a way to turn those moments into learning opportunities, or simply shrug it off as being merely temporary. Our ability to achieve happiness and stay content is heavily dependent on our ability to navigate change with a sense of composure.

One of my proudest accomplishments is overcoming unbelievably difficult circumstances and family losses that I thought would break me. My path through those moments was to do two things, make peace with what was, and remember that it was only one situation out of many. I had to connect with my higher self and make peace with God.

If you’re facing a similar cycle of negative events, if live is bringing you down. Take a moment and temporarily excuse yourself from the pain. Try to focus on aspect of your lives that bring you joy and lift your spirits. Find something that makes you feel blessed. Even if it’s just the ability to see the beauty of a flower, or hear music, focus on the things that bring you joy and relief and change your emotional station.

They allow themselves to temporarily step away from those moments that are bringing them down or are causing them pain and immediately begin to focus on aspects of their lives that bring them joy and lift their spirits. They feel blessed for the things that life has given them rather than curse the things life has denied them or the unwanted things life is throwing at them.

This isn’t to say you should entirely ignore that you are going through a difficult time, but if you can find even a little laughter in a tough situation or remember that “this too shall pass.” You’ll be able to more quickly lead yourself to a better station. Make a power shift that involves as much of your entire being as possible. Engage your thoughts, your spirit, and your physical being in those moments of positivity.

Building positivity is like building a muscle. And the more you practice, the better at it you will be. Being able to create a power shift in focus is one habit that can have a tremendous impact on your life. How optimists respond to difficulty is the game changer that allows them to thrive. So while you can’t prevent unwanted moments, you can decide to learn from them and create a plan to move past them.

When you change your emotional station, in other words, your attention, to the things that give you a sense of well-being. You are replenishing your spirit and feeding your soul. It is a way to recharge your emotional battery and give you the fortitude you’ll need to move past a bad event. Once you’ve recharged, you’ll be in a better position to face the situation that is causing you stress, you will find it less overwhelming. When you aren’t overwhelmed, you’ll be in a better position to find the answers you need to make your plan forward.

When you temporarily step away from challenging situations and steer your attention to something that makes you feel good, you are thereby replenishing your spirit and nourishing your soul, the very essence of who you are. You are recharging your inner battery with the emotional fortitude needed to forge ahead. When you do go back to face the situation that is causing unease in your life, which inevitably you must do, you will feel less overwhelmed and the answers will come to you  more readily. This is because you’ve calmed your nervous system down to the point where you can embrace the situation, rather than have the situation control you.

No matter what happens in life, the sun will rise tomorrow. By practicing positivity, and refusing to give up, you’ll grow your personal power.

A shift in focus, even a brief one, will have a profound and long-lasting impact on how you deal with challenges now and in the future. So no matter how many tears you’ve shed, or how many times you’ve wanted to scream, there’s another opportunity to smile in your future.

So practice positivity. Allow yourself to step away from moments that are bringing you down and focus on aspects of yourself that lift you up. Find things to that make you feel grateful. Bless the things that life has given you, rather than cursing what you are lacking. And always find the laughter during tough times. This is what happy, successful, optimistic people know.

Don’t Get Stuck on the One Thing that Ruins Your Day

Think of a recent situation that ruined your day? Perhaps you received a message from someone and suddenly you were caught up in negativity? The list of things that can get us stuck in the mental muck is quite lengthy, yes? Things happen and we tend to carry the energy throughout our day. But it doesn’t have to be this way because we can process negative events and allow them to move through us.

Contributor: Tony Fahkry

Do a mental exercise with me: Think of a recent situation that ruined your day? Perhaps you received a message from someone and suddenly you were caught up in negativity? The list of things that can get us stuck in the mental muck is quite lengthy, yes? Things happen and we tend to carry the energy throughout our day. But it doesn’t have to be this way because we can process negative events and allow them to move through us. I realise it may be difficult to do at first but with practice, you can avoid ruminating on situations that spoil your day. I speak from experience as someone accustomed to holding on to negative emotions for hours. I discovered it was futile being immersed in negativity when it takes an emotion two a half minutes to move through our nervous system, according to neuroanatomist Jill Bolte Taylor.

Think about that for a moment. It takes the time to brush your teeth for an emotion to move through your nervous system, yet many of us hold on to them for longer than necessary. We replay the memory of the event time after time and it ruins our life because we are not present but caught up in our minds. We are not truly living but trapped in the past. Can you relate to this where you found it difficult to let go of incessant negative thoughts? It is normal to make sense of negative events, yet sometimes we must avoid looking for meaning. For example, I would ruminate about a negative experience for hours, trying to figure its meaning. However, I was only processing thoughts in an attempt to ascribe meaning to something that wasn’t there.

It involves recognising the futility of holding on to negative emotions. They were impacting my day and my interaction with others. One negative thought at the beginning of your day is like a plant that grows branches deep into the soil. Soon enough, it is sprouting roots and growing at a rate impossible to stop. This is the analogy to what takes place when we become fixated on negative thoughts. Through our neural structures in the brain, they gain a foothold in our mind and turn into negative emotional states within our body. Emotions are not meant to be stored in the body but intended to move through it.

Don’t Miss Out On Life Bearing Its Gifts

Is this something you’re willing to practise? Will you allow a negative situation to move through you instead of getting stuck on the one thing that can ruin your day? Your answer will dictate whether you remain trapped in your thoughts or allow life to move through you. This is a key point: Life is constantly happening on a moment to moment basis. Even our thoughts is life materialising through us and if we are fixated on one thought over another, we stop the flow of life which becomes stagnant. We ought to let go of processing circumstances by experiencing the event and letting it go. It reminds me of the story attributed to the Buddha in which he spoke of anger being akin to holding a hot coal in your hands. Your initial reflex is to drop the coal because it is too hot. The same applies to our thoughts. As unwanted thoughts enter our stream of consciousness, we release them instead of clutching to them.

I never said it was easy, but with practice and persistence you can let go of negative thoughts as quickly as they enter your mind. I recall an experience last year which involved a minor altercation with a motorist. There was an exchange of words between us that lasted a few seconds. After the event, I was able to return to a state of peace within seconds. In fact, I was laughing at the absurdity of what took place. In previous years, I would have ruminated on it for hours, perhaps days. Through my practice of mindfulness and meditation, I now appreciate thoughts come and go from our minds like ocean tides. To associate with all of them is a waste of time because we miss out on other enriching thoughts and experiences simultaneously taking place.

Life continues to stream through the tiny pockets of moments intertwined throughout our day. If we process thoughts based on what took place hours ago, we miss out on life bearing its gifts in the present moment. So, over the coming week try to be mindful of those thoughts you tend to fixate on. Stop and ask yourself: “Am I dwelling on fear?” If the answer is yes, drop the negative thought and shift your attention to what is happening in the present moment. Avoid distracting yourself by scrolling through your phone since that only delays dealing with your emotions. Be more present and aware of what you are holding in the container of your heart and mind. If it is not useful, let it go. After all, don’t get stuck on the one thing that ruins your day because it may be the very thing that holds you back from true bliss and alignment.

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